Hi and welcome to my blog. My name is Susy Coupland. I’m wife to Barry, mum to my 3 boys and carer for my eldest who has challenges with autism. Life has chucked us many lemons and at times we’ve let it give us a sour face but now we mostly make lemonade 🙂
If you are a parent and carer (or maybe just a parent with challenging children) and you are finding life difficult or you’re not coping emotionally or practically like I was a few years ago, you may find yourself crying or silently screaming in your bathroom, trying to hide that you are falling apart. Maybe you are living each day almost emotionless because its easier to get through the day that way. Maybe your child has just been diagnosed with autism and you’ve fell in to a bit of a dark hole of the unknown, experiencing grief and feeling guilty for even thinking that way. I’ve started this blog for you.
There is an overwhelming amount of advice out there for carers about how to support your child, mostly really helpful, however, when you are not coping, more advice can seem like more burden to carry. This blog is a little something for you, where you can hide away in the bathroom but instead of crying, find a little bit of hope or a little bit of peace; a place where we can share a moment as you nod your head and say ‘me too!’ and not feel so alone.
So, what has brought me to this place of hope and making lemonade I hear you ask? I have been a christian for a long time now and have maintained an eternal hope that in the end all will be well, so my faith has brought me through some really difficult times. Somewhere along the way my ability to hope for a full life here and now, the full life Jesus promises when we invite Him to be Lord over our life, was a bit trampled on by life events and circumstances. Through studying christian counselling, I’ve experienced life-changing emotional and spiritual healing and hope has been rekindled. The truth is we need each other; we need someone to take us by the hand and say I will listen but I wont let you stay in that place and to then walk with us for a little while on a journey of rediscovering hope even when our circumstance is refusing to change.
I cant be that person for everyone but I hope that through blogging I can give you a little nudge towards the hope and healing I am experiencing.